We will hear and say ‘Happy New Year’ so often at this time of year – but rarely do we think about what it really means to us, as well as the individuals to whom we say it.
We are all unique people who have our own unique needs and desires; and many of us are united in our quest for the same thing – to feel Happy New Year 2020 Wishes. We are all striving for this state of ‘happiness’; but so many people are looking in the wrong place for it – and settling for any temporary mood-enhancer as alcohol, drugs, a whole new relationship, or new possessions.
Magazines are packed with ‘New Year New You’ advice from so-called experts – almost all of which can be just plain sound judgment! Nobody else will be the expert for you! Only you know – or want to pin-down – what brings you personal happiness. One person’s happiness is another person’s burden.
Should you now think about what actually brings people happiness it might range from finding shelter and food; to having a make-over/fake-tan/fake-nails etc., buying new ‘toys/gadgets’, right through to showing love, care and compassion to others. As broad a spectrum as it is noticed in general society.
Happiness for you will be based upon your own amount of personal and spiritual awareness, along with your ability to create happiness as a state of mind which you can go back to anytime – despite life’s relentless disappointments and challenges.
It is not enough to easily ‘think’ or ‘imagine’ yourself as being happy – you can’t fool yourself that easily!
What most of us don’t realise is the fact we have two mind-sets about everything in life, which two minds can be at odds with each other. This conflict can include the amounts of happiness we are ‘allowed’ to experience.
Our conscious/rational/observing mind can desire and seek greater happiness; but when our sub-conscious mind doesn’t believe that we deserve it, or that we would benefit from it – then it just isn’t planning to come our way. Our outer lives are merely ever a reflection of our own inner and deeper sub-conscious belief system. Self-help books and talking therapies usually do not access or change these deeper ‘Script’ beliefs.
Being around happy, optimistic, warm and friendly people positively affects us too – as does the opposite. This is known as ‘Emotional Contagion’ – and it is worth reflecting upon what ‘mood’ or ‘energy’ we ourselves hand out that in turn affects those around us.
We have now neurons within our brains called Mirror Neurons which can create in us the emotion we are witnessing outside us. As an example whenever we see someone stub their toe or trap their finger, we are instinctively developed to feel something similar. This connection goes past mere ’empathy’, or of recalling personal memories of comparable things having happened to us before. We are significantly afflicted with being around Merry Christmas 2019 Wishes, whose emotions then we ‘mirror’ in ourselves.
Don’t however be fooled with a ‘happy mask’ that somebody may wear; that will be a false-self they present to the world as being an make an effort to hide their real feelings and needs. This may well happen to be set up in childhood when it was encouraged and expected they ‘put-on-a-happy face’ for that family’s sake; and also to stuff down their real feelings including anger, resentment, disappointment, fear, sadness and despair – which had been real, but ‘unacceptable’ by the family/care-giver.
So many people are so used to wearing a mask they cannot imagine an existence without it, or how to take it off! Their eyes will usually give the game away as to their underlying feelings, as will an unguarded moment and comment, if another person is sensitive enough to notice these ‘slips’.
We all have a ‘base-line’ level of happiness at virtually any stage inside our lives – which is formed from your past experiences as well as the meaning we gave to them; not to mention the effects these have had upon our sub-conscious mind and the ‘program’ we have been running.
This base-line represents only 40% in the full level of happiness we are capable of experiencing in the present time. Another 10% can come from the external ‘lucky’ events like the lottery win; or perhaps a big new purchase; or kkywim plastic surgery etc. These ‘highs’ are unfortunately only temporary and we soon come back to our base level yet again.
The good news though is the fact that remaining 40% of happiness open to you – is derived from YOU! This can be scientifically validated and forms a central part of Positive Psychology.
There are 12 means of facilitating more happiness by your own actions and thoughts, and also by the releasing your own blockages. Many of these ways include finding out how to create a more optimistic and focused approach to life; to keep up your healthy mind and spirit, and allowing gratitude and forgiveness to you. These sound simple however are profound and life-changing. Boosting your overall, and sustained, happiness positively effects every cell inside your body and consequently your genetic expression (Epi-genetics); and thus your lifespan.
Deeper and sustained Happiness equates to a calmness in the mind… observing precisely what is, and never forcing change… reflecting, surrendering and allowing; instead of worrying, over-thinking and mind-chatter. To find out the Happy New Year Messages in every single tiny moment instead of only focusing ahead of the present time; or dwelling in the unchangeable past. The only time you truly have is it moment and the next breath. Get the most from these whilst you still need them.